Pregnancy loss is extremely discomforting and distressing. It is difficult for both partners; however it is certainly most difficult for women, since for them it is almost like dealing with a physical loss. Having carried the child for a period of time in the womb and losing it under unfortunate circumstances is sure to wreak havoc on the mother.




Such kind of tearing and emotional grief can bring about a number of changes in the mother. There is definitely a huge emotional impact in dealing with such a kind of loss. Please do understand it is perfectly normal to go through the various mood swings and extreme emotional upheaval you might have that stage.


It is normal to be in a denial mode for a given period of time; it is normal to feel withdrawn and disinterested; it is normal to find it difficult to handle sincere expressions of sympathy. Give yourself time to grieve over the loss.

The most important part of dealing with such a loss is to understand that the loss is definitely not your fault. There are certain situations that are beyond anyone’s control. It is quite alright to experience and express guilt and even anger. But you have to keep reminding yourself that you are not the one to be blamed. Do not cut yourself off from the people around you. You require the love and support they are willing to give you. Although you might have emotional needs and upheavals, please try to understand that you cannot expect your partner to react in the same way. In such a time, it is important that you, first and foremost, learn to take care of yourself with the help and support of your partner. Unfortunate as it may sound, there might be times when people around you are oblivious in understanding the intensity of your loss.

And even though it may be challenging at first, it is important to indulge in counseling of some kind. You can always cherish the child’s memory by doing something in his/her honor, like giving charity or planting a tree or even, making a scrapbook or similar activities. Expressing your frame of mind through prose, poetry or any form of fine arts can certainly be helpful in unleashing all the pain and trauma held within. There are a number of resources available for women who have experienced a miscarriage. Every person deals with loss differently. A woman who has undergone the loss of an unborn child is certainly very emotionally vulnerable and quite traumatized. It is important to have a strong support group that will take care of you till the time you are able to pull yourself together.

Depression can be effectively treated through therapy and medications. Do not hesitate to ask for help. There are many women out there who have been through the same kind of loss or even much worse. A medical health counselor should be able to help you come to terms with the grief if you are having an extremely difficult time coping with the grief.